Being a loving and responsible father brings rewards beyond measure.
Being a loving and responsible father brings rewards beyond measure.

Being an involved father is the most important and rewarding job a man can do.

When dads are involved, young people stay in school and get better grades, they stay out of prisons, and have a better chance at experiencing positive outcomes throughout life.

I’ll be the first to admit that, although being a dad is mostly fun, it is sometimes challenging.

The challenges usually start when you have to change your very first diaper, with that mushy stuff, all by yourself.

It gets progressively more challenging, and seems to peak once your child hits puberty.

When faced with these and other challenges, it is helpful to have someone, or something, like a pledge, to turn to.

One of the best pledges I have ever come across is The Resolution, featured in the 2011 movie, Courageous. The Resolution states:

I DO solemnly resolve before God to take full responsibility for myself, my wife, and my children.

I WILL love them, protect them, serve them and teach them the Word of God as the spiritual leader of my home.

I WILL be faithful to my wife, to love and honour her, and be willing to lay down my life for her as Jesus Christ did for me.

I WILL bless my children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength.

I WILL train them to honour authority and live responsibly.

I WILL confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.

I WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect and compassion.

I WILL work diligently to provide for the needs of my family.

I WILL forgive those who have wronged me and reconcile with those I have wronged.

I WILL learn from my mistakes, repent of my sins, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God.

I WILL seek to honour God, be faithful to His church, obey His Word, and do His will.

I WILL courageously work with the strength God provides to fulfill this resolution for the rest of my life and for His glory.

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. (Joshua 24:15).

Wow! This is powerful stuff, if I may say so myself. This pledge, or resolution, is encouraging you to:

Be Spiritual. Establishing a personal relationship with God leads a man to fully accept his roles and responsibilities in life.

Be Involved. Our children’s development and future are helped when we become and stay involved in their lives.

Be Accountable. While each of us is in charge of our own destiny, one of the amazing things about going through life is the impact others can have on our development.

Be Responsible. As men, our primary responsibility is to our families. So, “when you clock out, go home and love your families”.

Be Committed. You are a father for life. Nothing or no one can change that fact. Being a Dad is different. It means deciding that you will always be actively involved in your child’s life. Make that commitment.

The main intent of this article is to share the simple truth that no matter what circumstances you face, be it job pressures, addictions, financial problems, marital problems, or any other forces that are keeping you from being the father that you need to be, you have support, and you can still be the father your child needs you to be.

When you make a pledge to your child, you are letting him or her know of your unwavering commitment to be a better Dad.

You are also communicating that you will always be there for your child.

Making and committing to a pledge will empower you and change your child’s life forever.

 

Pete Saunder runs the website www.razorsanddiapers.com which is dedicated to helping Bermuda’s fathers with their children. It offers information on fatherhood issues, resources and parenting products.